15 Months Not Talking: A Journey Of Self-Discovery

The Beginning

It all started with a fight. A small disagreement that turned into a huge argument. We said things we didn’t mean, and before we knew it, we stopped talking to each other. Days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months, and soon, it had been 15 months since we last spoke.

The Silence

The silence was deafening. At first, I didn’t think much of it. I thought it was just a small bump in the road, something we would eventually get over. But as the days turned into weeks, I realized that this was something bigger. We had stopped communicating, and it was affecting every aspect of our lives.

I missed talking to them about my day, sharing my thoughts and feelings, and just having someone to laugh with. But I was too proud to reach out. I thought that if they wanted to talk to me, they would. And so we continued to exist in this state of silence, each of us waiting for the other to make the first move.

The Turning Point

It wasn’t until I started seeing a therapist that I realized the impact this silence was having on me. I was struggling with anxiety, depression, and a general feeling of loneliness. My therapist suggested that I reach out and try to reconnect with my loved one. At first, I was hesitant. But as I thought about it more, I realized that she was right.

The Reconciliation

So I sent them a message, asking if we could talk. I was nervous, but also hopeful. To my surprise, they responded almost immediately, and we set up a time to meet. It was awkward at first, but as we started talking, it was like no time had passed at all. We talked about everything that had happened, and it was cathartic to finally get it all out in the open.

The Reflection

Looking back on those 15 months, I realize that it was a journey of self-discovery. In the silence, I had time to reflect on my own thoughts and feelings. I learned more about myself, my values, and what I want out of life. And while I wouldn’t wish that kind of silence on anyone, I am grateful for what I learned from it.

The Lessons

Here are some of the lessons I learned during those 15 months:

1. Communication is key

When we stopped talking, it was like a part of me was missing. I realized how important communication is in any relationship, whether it’s with a partner, family member, or friend. It’s important to be open and honest with each other, even if it’s difficult.

2. Pride can be harmful

I was too proud to reach out, and it almost cost me a valuable relationship. Sometimes, we need to let go of our pride and admit when we’re wrong or when we need help. It’s not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength.

3. Time heals wounds

While those 15 months were difficult, they also helped me realize that time can heal wounds. Even when it seems like things will never get better, they often do. It’s important to be patient and trust in the process.

4. Self-reflection is important

In the silence, I had time to reflect on my own thoughts and feelings. I realized what was important to me and what I wanted out of life. It’s important to take time for yourself, to reflect on your own thoughts and feelings, and to prioritize self-care.

The Conclusion

Those 15 months not talking were difficult, but they also taught me valuable lessons. I learned about the importance of communication, the harm of pride, the healing power of time, and the value of self-reflection. While I wouldn’t wish that kind of silence on anyone, I am grateful for what I learned from it. And most importantly, I am grateful to have reconnected with my loved one and to have a stronger relationship because of it.